Starting school
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Primary school marks the start of your child's formal school education. The first day at school is a big one for any child: perhaps you can still remember your feelings on your first day. Recent research suggests, however, that it can be an even more worrying event for the parent than the child. Do bear this in mind and try not to pass on your own insecurities, fears or regrets to your child. Be honest with them, instead: talk to them about how you feel but do try to be positive about what is an important milestone in their development.
Some children love school straight away, and others struggle to get used to their new routine, so, be prepared for the worst but hope for the best. Most will have some bad days as well as good. Remember though that whatever happens will seem commonplace as far as the reception class teacher is concerned.
On the first day, many schools will have special arrangements for the new intake. This normally means that parents deliver children to the classroom rather than the gates. As a parent, it is useful if you know where you are going, as this will instil confidence in your child, so make sure you know what the arrangements are in advance. Most teachers will have a selection of entertaining activities on hand for the first few days of a new term. Reassuring as it is to stay and make sure that your child settles down with something, it may be better to disappear quite promptly and let the teacher take charge. A huge box of Lego and a playhouse is often a better cure for nervous tears than a parent's - equally nervous - concern!
It is important to maintain interest in what your child is doing throughout their schooling, but especially so in the first few weeks. Teachers know this and will shower you with ragged paintings and monsters made of plastic cups. You should show great interest in these signs of independent activity and lavish praise on your child's efforts.
If, after a few weeks, your child is still obviously unhappy about going to school it is worth having a chat with the reception class teacher. If you have both noticed the problem then you can work together to overcome it. Don't be surprised, however, if the teacher has seen no signs of unhappiness. A child can get into the habit of crying every morning but become a changed person once a parent has left them at the school gate!
Can you tick the boxes?
Before your child goes to school, it helps if they can:
- Dress and undress - including fastening shoes.
- Go to the toilet unsupervised.
- Wash and dry face and hands.
- Eat tidily, using a knife and fork.
- Tidy and clear away toys.
- Use a handkerchief.
- Mix with other children of the same age.
- Respond to instructions given by adults.
- Take an interest in picture books.